VNTM:The importance of |ntimacy.

Touch me, tease me

Feel me and caress me

Hold on tight and don't let go                       

Baby I'm about to explode

Cuz all my love you can control///

Those notations speak volumes when it comes to the dynamic of the subject matter: INTIMACY .
A reader of the blog rose speculation of the subject and asked me to elaborate on the subject.So here goes...
Intimacy:  in·ti·ma·cy 

n. pl. in·ti·ma·cies

1. The condition of being intimate.

2. An instance of being intimate.

Many indulge in the word,others recoil at the mere gratification.However you want to entertain this notion,it CAN be cute at times.The ultimate inquiry at hand is when to show it? How to show it? and Who to show it to? It's really not rocket science, but it can create aggravation in some.To be intimate means to pertain some type of relationship with another person.(Serving yourself does NOT count.)It can be a dating relationship,platonic relationship,interpersonal relationship or marital relationship or casual.

 

All of these relationship components serves an essential purpose in factoring intimacy.The compatible thread in all of these is mainly of a sexual nature.Compatibility is somewhat a virtue.It's not needed ;however ,it should most definitely be implemented.

WHEN:

There's no specific time coordinates when it comes to SHOWING intimacy.Some show it without even touching the other.The date,time,place all is considered with said person.The most common time to display intimacy is when you get to know a person................................................LMAOOOOOOO....I almost fooled myself with that one. 

::sighs::

  Ok,in a more righteous sense,intimacy is something that occurs with two people (or 3,4 ..whichever floats your boat) that share either a sexual,spiritual,emotional or mental attraction.Attraction is the most immaculate factor.No intimacy should take place without it. 

If you're fucking left,right,up & down organisms that you have no remote attraction to then this post is'nt for you.Seek professional help.A pity screw should never be your platform.Don't get me wrong,we've all had that one or two dates that we just mess around with because at that time no other options were available or you had a little too much Mother Vodka + Cranberry in your system.

HOW:

^man down^

 Believe it or not ,there are universal chronological standard in which intimacy takes place in all forms and social standards.  

1.attraction & dating.(im feeling you,you feeling me) 2.relational maintenance & repair.(the technical difficulties & problems:we can solve them.No big deal)3.relational stressors + repairs.(we obviously got problems and i'm contemplating on dropping your ass;how are WE gonna fix this?)4.relational termination.(Bitch,boo bye!)

Ways to show intimacy varies.You could be Ms.Prissy Perfect Patricia and practice more traditional ways of  seduction or you can be a total nympho and fuck up a boudoir like below...
 

Anyway you entertain your partner must be memorable.Even if you don't want nothing else to do with the person,drop that shit like its your last day on earth.If he/she gonna spread your business about your intimate performance (which if it's a queen,then you KNOW they will..)you want it to be something worth telling.Am i right? ....I know. 

 Pull out ALL the tricks...i.e shower is always the perfect prelude to immense intimacy...hands down.You're clean,it's steamy,you're in close proximity of your partner,sexual tension is at it's peak and the most dominating fact of all is that you're butt ass naked and wet.Leggo!!

"Go deep,Imma throw it at ya,
Can't catch it.
Don't hold back,You know I like it rough.
Know I'm feelin you, huh.
Know you liking it, huh."

pointers>>>

•  When you're taking off your clothes,always take off your shirt first.If it's a button up,always start unbuttoning from the bottom up to the top button.If it's a t-shirt,lift from the bottom up and over your head.Don't get tangled trying to  take it off ,you don't wanna look goofy.Also don't take it off too fast,you don't wanna seem so eager on whats about to happen.  
• Foreplay is king.Do not shy away from it.Embrace it to it's highest degree.A simple touch can ignite immense reactions.Especially,if the two parties are extremely physically & sexually attracted to one another.Never start off with licking with the full girth of your tongue,start off with the tip.Grazing the silhouettes and contours of the body with the precipitate ball of the tongue can be mesmerizing.You can practice technique on the back of your hand. After you've completed the prelude of that you can then upgrade to using full potential of your mouth snake.Earlobes,the neck,inside the thigh,lower stomach area,nipples,lower back and the good ole ass is the most prominent hot spots.Pull out your gun...Man Down.S+M activity is an option too.(...if that's what you into).It signifies from everything to tea-bagging,pissing,toys,or restraint.If you're gonna be bad,be really good at it. ::devilish grin::

•  If you're a variety ho (versatile tOP/bottoM,versatile),then your conceptions should be a little more complex than the latter.When you're open to anything then the standards become dwindling and a little more abstract than usual.Having many conceptions on this title can sometimes be troubling in the bedroom. Versatility is  esteemed for being both dominant and submissive,your hormones are all over the place.One day you want ketchup and mustard the next.In these areas,I feel that you should just have an open mind and a real communicative sex drive because if amicable desires are not squashed then the sex can be shady and compromising. However,variety is always a good persona.Not many desire the same repetitive sexual nature in the bedroom.For some,it can be very frustrating and can ultimately lead to infidelity.Oops!

• If you're receiving (bottoM), always give your partner a sense of notoriety and prestige.We must know that you appreciate what we giving to you.Grant us with all chronicles of foreplay and desire and we'll most definitely  feel more than obliged to return the favor.It's a duty.

•  If you're giving (toP),aggressiveness is always a mantra in the senses.Your partner can be a little aggressive and demanding but you should always be in control,indefinitely.No one wants a wimpy sexual antagonist.Allure is the perception .You shouldn't be begging for attention.It should already be implied.Get your life.

WHO:

There isn't a definitive selection when it comes to whom you grant affection and intimacy to.Everyone deserves a little love,correct?............LMAOOOOOO...ok,I almost got myself with that insignificant fable.If you a complete sea donkey,you should cut your ties and gain knowledge that your options are not as broad as others.You're low on the totem pole.Sorry.Sometimes I can have a minute sense of benevolence.However, I'm a realist at heart.It's my passion.Shoot me! Anywho,your standards maybe different from others;resulting in you having to limit  your intimacy.You can however go out rationing  the dick and the ass.It's consuming.If you're the 'variety ho' like I mentioned earlier then you have this syndrome embedded in your disposition.If you decide to top the kids one night then your standards maybe a little aimed towards something a lot more different compared to the standard that you may go by when you're aspiring for some penis.If it's that one dude that you always call on (the convenient 'jump off') then your level of intimacy will vary on the level of libations intake or how much you're feeling that particular person on that particular day.

 Anywho...
intimacy is the shit.It's the diamond factor in developing natural sexual instincts.Sometimes its a beacon of confirmation of our compatibility to another person or just our scapegoat to a passionate playground.Without it we wouldn't be here.However and whomever you decide to show it to should be coerced and executed accordingly.Don't go giving away your cake and wood all wholeheartedly.A friendly cocktail isn't sufficient.
Until next time,VNTM (vanitys.nephew.tawt.me.)